|  | i am a student, 21, female. my prob is i have fallen in love wit my best friend...saya tak percayakan cinta sebab pada saya ianya perasaan sementara tapi saya tak boleh tolak perasaan tu bile dengan die. Untuk menolak perasaan tu saye bagitau saye suka die dengan harapan perasaan itu hilang. Perasaan berdebar-debar setiap kali jumpa die. Tapi respon dia hanye kite kawan je. Die baru 'clash' ngan awek die. Sekarang die xpercaye perempuan. After I told him my feelings he rejected me, but he continued to treat me nicely as though as i'm his girlfren. One of my frens said that he just wants to fill his loneliness by using me. is dat true?? but why is it that he hates other girls but with me he's ok and even treats me like a girlfriend. thanx for hearing my prob. |  | Hi Fudge, there’s a fine line between a best friend and a girlfriend. Did he cross the line in some way that made you certain that he acted like you were his girlfriend? Or was he just being nice to you because you are his best friend and because you have feelings for him, you could have misinterpreted his actions. Nonetheless, in my humble opinion, to step in when he’s just ended his relationship with someone is not a good time to start a relationship. He may have mixed emotions now that he’s single again, plus you are his best friend whom he shares all his problems with, and besides he might not even know about his true feelings for his ex. He could say he hates her but he could also have very strong feelings for her, perhaps the opposite of hate. My advice to you is to take things easy and be a friend who he needs to get him through this difficult situation. You can’t expect much at this stage, as his emotions are unstable, it could ruin what you have if you took a wrong step. And don’t do anything drastic like demanding him to declare that you are his girlfriend or demanding to know the truth about his feelings. It’s just unfair for him. Let everything cool down and see your luck then. One thing I need you to remember is a good friend is hard to come by and you should treasure him/her once you have found one.
ahahahaha...aku rasa funny dgn Q &A nie... tau knpa?sbb aku rasa..aku rasalah..menurut mirot...aku penah berada dlm keadaan yg sama....tp itu dulu...masa zaman2 jahiliyah...
dulu...mereka2....smua orglah yg ada kat keliling aku akan ckp benda yg sama...yg ko sedar atau x....ko n dia sama2 suka antara satu sama lain...dan...aku....aku slalu berada dlm state of denial...sbb apa?sbb aku xpenah nmpak future bersama..dan dia...bukanlah seorng yg aku mahu idup bersama smpai mati...ngerti?? knapa dia dlm rejected list???biarlah aku sorang je tau apa yg xkena dgn dia utk aku...
dang! tp mcm mana aku kuat pn denied smua bnda yg mereka katakan...deep down....little tinny suara ati aku ckp...bodoh...!ko tau smua yg dorang ckp tu berasas...
tp lama2...aku firgure out....dlm hidup kita....kita ada pilihan....utk terus menderita dlm state of denial...atau...truskan idup dgn bhagia dan relakn sekeping ati itu dimiliki oleh org lain...(eceh...ayat xbleh bla).....
dan sbnarnyalah..sbnarnya...aku lihat...aku timbang....aku pikir lamaaaaaaaaaaaaaa sgt...dan aku xmo persahabatan trputus sbb perasaan itu....sbb aku lebih hargai sebuah persahabatan...aku suka persahabatn itu..maka aku pilih satu jalan yg lain dan aku x penah menyesal....
and now...aku deeply madly in love sama encit boypren....walaupn xmenjanjikn sebuah masa dpn bersama...tp aku hepi dgn stiap saat idup aku yg aku sndiri pilih jalannya....
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p/s: hepi aniversary encit boypren....love u
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